My name is Gareth, an Attachment-Based Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist, practicing from HQ Therapy Rooms in Haggerston, E8 and my private practice in Stoke Newington, N16. My work includes one day for the NHS, as an Honorary Parent and Infant Psychotherapist (PIT), at The Maudsley Hospital, Demark Hill.
Attachment-based psychotherapy can be helpful if you find yourself wondering about how we got to where we are today. It can offer support facing up to some of the feelings and fears we may have hidden from ourselves. If relationships went awry in childhood or adulthood, or we feel alone, our ability to manage daily life can feel quite disrupted, even throwing us into crisis. Attachment-based psychotherapy at the core, holds the understanding of the importance that relationships offer to human growth and individual development throughout life, regardless of how one may choose to identify.
The disruptions we experience, can leave profound consequences on our ability to create and maintain safe, loving and respectful relationships, not only with ourselves but also our intimate partners, family and friends. They can impact the way we feel about our identity and how we relate to other people, reducing self-esteem, our confidence, often leaving us feeling brittle, fragile or depressed.
As a gay man and a father, I have a particular interest in working with LGBTQ+ people regarding issues on gender, sexuality, diversity, and relationships (GSDR). Please contact me should you have any specific questions relating to GSDR or how gay affirmative therapy might feel supportive for you and your future growth.
Aims of Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy can include;
~ Feeling less critical, punishing or destructive regarding the relationship with oneself
~ Developing a deeper understanding of oneself, why we do or behave in the ways we do
~ A better understanding of other people
~ Improved ability to make and maintain relationships with others (including ourselves)
~ Greater pleasure in achievements, across life and work
~ Healthier ways for coping with anxiety and stress
~ Feeling less overwhelmed or weighed down
~ To feel more spontaneous
Please note these are not targets, simply aspects to reflect upon.
My aim is to provide an empathic, non-judgmental and confidential space, fostering a safe and supportive environment for you to explore difficult experiences and feelings. We constantly feel and experience at a bodily level, a wide range of sensations which can be confusing or disturbing. You might be curious or frustrated by their presence, especially if you notice repetitions in your own behaviour or experiences. Anxiety, excitement, erotic, depressive, aggressive, low and pleasurable experiences might be aspects of yourself you want to understand in more depth, or have struggled with in the past involving medical interventions.
Sessions are 50 minutes (unless otherwise agreed) and arranged once, twice or three times a week.
I approach our work in an open-ended way and therapy may continue for months or several years, depending on your individual needs. From time to time in all our lives, we face difficulties that can leave us with uncomfortable feelings, anxieties or intrusive thoughts. These feelings can impact our day to day life, creating reoccurring problems whilst leaving us feeling something is unresolved. You might notice you behave differently and how your feelings vary depending on the environment or situation you are in. It is possible that what you are experiencing is an accumulation of unresolved events, which draw your attention to, and have an impact upon your daily life and your relationships.Psychotherapy can help you understand patterns within your own life, reducing anxiety, enabling you to take greater control over your life. Many people who have experienced difficulties over many years value a long-term approach to this work.
I openly invite you to talk about all aspects of yourself when you feel ready or safe enough. It can feel difficult and uncomfortable thinking and talking about our past experiences as well as present-day, current and past relationships, future ambitions, sexual life, emotional life, values, beliefs, politics and even your dreams. In truth, nothing is off-limits... What I offer you is a safe space every week to understand yourself in the context of a therapeutic relationship. The hope we hold in mind is that as the relationship between us begins to develop, deepen and strengthen, that this in itself, becomes an important part of your therapy of which might assist explorations in ones outer world.
Attachment is a very special emotional relationship unique to us all. As an attachment-based psychoanalytic psychotherapist, I am interested in how parents and caregivers respond to their infant/s, create safety, support exploration and develop autonomy. These responses create patterns that develop and guide a child’s feelings, thoughts and expectations as an adult in future relationships. Early life with our primary caregivers are essential to heathy mental functioning in adult life. Expect that we will often think about early life from a developmental perspective. This means thinking about and connecting to the stage and age of a specific time in ones life. A child's view of situation can often be very different to an adult's reflections of the same period of time.
For me, it is important that you are seen and heard as an individual. I warmly invite and encourage you to bring, whatever feelings may be present in the moment, whether present or past. There is no limit to what can be discussed in psychotherapy and we might hope our discussions create new ways of understanding. Deciding who to trust is a very personal experience.
My hope is that the information I offer here, can make your next step more comfortable even safer. We will meet in a safe, supportive and non-judgemental environment, which may also be lively and challenging if and when needed. Please feel free to contact me directly with any questions or thoughts you might have relating to starting a therapy.
Please contact me directly if you would like to meet me for an initial consultation. The extended time will enable you to meet me face to face, to ask any questions you might have regarding therapy and my approach.
Where and Contact
If you would like to arrange an initial consultation or you have any questions regarding my fees, availability or approach, please drop me an email at email@example.com
If you prefer, you can call or text 07546 680358.
I practice from HQ Therapy, Haggerston E8 & Stoke Newington N16.
Both are a short walking distance from London Overground stations of Stoke Newington Haggerston, Dalston Kingsland or Dalston Junction.
Additionally, Stoke Newington is easily accessible via Seven Sisters underground station (Victoria line) in just 4mins.
Hackney Downs, Stratford and Highbury & Islington are helpful interchanges.
Bus routes 73, 476, 149, 106, 67, 76, 243 all stop at the Stoke Newington Overground Station which requires a 2 minute walk.
You can find more information regarding attachment based psychoanalytic psychotherapy, at The Bowlby Centre following the link below https://thebowlbycentre.org.uk/psychotherapy/